Fairy-tales Daydreaming

The power we have as women to make up stories in our head is UNREAL!



We LOVE to create beautiful fairy-tales where we are the main characters and where, through various twists and challenges, we get to the well expected happy ending we've always wished for. We sometimes imagine things that in real life are highly unlikely to happen and unfortunately this gets us involved in awkward and uncomfortable situations in real life.

Like when we stalk the guy we like on social media and find out different information about him and we accidentally bring that up in conversations (when we do have them, for you lucky ones out there) with him.



What we are actually guilty of, which is also the main drive to these daydreams, is the amazing gift we have, most of the times, of blowing things out of proportion: what he says or doesn't say, does or doesn't do always has a meaning for us. This is accompanied by the crafty skill in explaining to ourselves and others how that makes PERFECT SENSE. “He didn't say hi to me cos he is really SHY!” (when in reality he could just be really rude, or he didn't notice your presence or just doesn't care!); “He keeps giving me compliments cos he is CLEARLY attracted to me” (or maybe he is just a really nice guy that likes complimenting people or girls! Either way it is out of nicety rather than a specific attraction towards you).



Now, I don’t mean that when they do say these kind of things, it is NEVER what we think and want it to be. However, what I've learnt is that, unless it comes from his mouth, you should never run your own race in your mind on what these guys actually intend those unsaid words or actions to be. And EVEN WHEN IT DOES COME FROM HIS MOUTH, he could still be lying or not be entirely sure of what he is saying so you might not always actually know the truth.

However, in the midst of all these feelings, no matter what truth will eventually be, we need to be able discipline ourselves to still remain focused and remember who we are. You fall into THE TRAP when you allow what he says or doesn't say, do or doesn't do to control your mood and emotions. No one should have this power over you except yourself.



Liking someone and the process that goes with it is a thrilling and exciting journey, whether short-lived or for a longer term. However, this process does not always have a happy ending and one important thing to keep in mind is to always remember who you are. You are beautiful, special and unique and ensure that no matter what the outcome will be, you will not lose yourself in the process. Our individuality sets us all apart from each other and thus, NOT EVERYONE will recognize the beauty of it. And to be honest, not everyone is MEANT TO as we are all different.



The one who is meant to see all the facets of the core of who you are, with all your qualities and all your flaws, will be the one who will recognize you even in the crowd cos only his eyes were meant to see what everyone else couldn't see.


Treat yourself to something nice this week cos no matter what, you deserve it.

If you want, you can share below what you did.

Have a nice week.



*Princess Leona*

S.O.S Wikihow

I think when you get to the point of 'googling' something you know it’s a serious business.



Unlike what people think, I am ACTUALLY quite a shy person! I HATE being at the center of attention unless I’m in my element: e.g. singing, dancing or sports competition. I had to learn (and I am still learning) to get over myself and be confident no matter what I am doing. So I understand what it means to be shy and especially feeling insecure. However, I don’t necessarily let that stop me from being myself and get what I want (at least not all the time). And this brings me to my dilemma.

What I googled today was: “how to let a shy guy make a move”! I mean, I know it is a bit desperate and pathetic to say the least but I didn't know WHAT ELSE to do. Prince Beau will drive any woman crazy with his mixed signals and ambiguous intentions. I obviously don’t know if he likes me but I am also not certain of the opposite. (But then, I am also not sure if he likes anyone anyways). So I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING to find out.

The frustration brought me to 'Wikihow'. Wikihow is such a great website as it deals with ANYTHING but it really makes me laugh on how seriously it deals with the stupidest topics (like how to count the hair on your head!) 

Anyways, it was giving me great advice on the aforementioned dilemma that made perfect sense. However, it didn't shine any light on my situation: I have either tried those suggestions already and didn't work or never thought of trying them and I know THEY JUST WON'T WORK.



However, reading the different articles opened my eyes on the reasons behind the actions of this interesting male species. Some of them are quite obvious, like nervousness that hinders shy guys from being themselves. Other ones were quite interesting: sometimes a shy guy might not make a move because he thinks he is out of your league and you will never like someone like him. Or sometimes his shyness doesn’t always translate in nervousness or anxiety but also in rudeness and aloofness. He can appear like he’s not interested in having a conversation with you or even in acknowledging your presence when IN ACTUAL FACT, he REALLY wants to talk to you. 

I don't know about you but I find that really interesting.



However, I eventually had to realise that there is nothing I can do about the situation. LITERALLY NOTHING. All I can do is wait and see what happens. Focus on working on myself and being myself, all the time and ESPECIALLY around him, as I can unwillingly become quite awkward and just weird!!



Despite the failure in applying any of 'Wikihow's' suggestions, one thing I will take with me is that it is important not to rush things and to go at a slower pace than what you will normally do. He needs to build the trust that will make him more confident around you when you’re together. And that goes the same for you: you need to ensure that he is a keeper and only then, you will be able to trust him. And this, takes TIME.

And that does not only go for shy guys but for every guy.



Patience is a rare and challenging virtue but once you acquire it, you can cherish it forever because you know you will always need it.



Challenge yourself to be extra patient with one thing or one person this week...

Yours,

Xxx Princess Leona xxX

It's all in the eyes...

Today I had one of the most surreal experiences EVER.



I have always liked Prince Beau. His father is the King of Victoria Town and he is the desire of almost every girl! He is charming, with the cutest smile in town and he has an AMAZING voice. His musical talent is so versatile, it is borderline annoying and you can easily find yourself coveting his gifts.



When I met Prince Beau for the first time I genuinely thought he was 15 years old!! He has a baby face and I just couldn’t comprehend that he was actually older!! So funny!!!



So I didn’t like Prince Beau straight away, as in from the first time I saw him. It wasn’t love at first sight in the conventional way that we normally perceive it. Something about him caught my attention but I don’t necessarily know what. Maybe it is the way he was intensely looking into my eyes that made me slightly uncomfortable. Or the fact that he held unto my hand for longer than the necessary period of time. Or it was just his smile: his beautiful and genuine smile.



I must admit that what really stuck me with him was his voice. His sweet and warm voice. I’m really into music so I love listening to quality content but his voice is different. I already knew I was trapped the moment I got one of his songs so I could listen to it whenever I wanted to without looking for it online.



We’ve had a really weird and bizarre relationship from the beginning. I can’t call him a friend cos we’re not. We have periods where we we're cool and periods where we completely ignore each other, to the extreme where I really dislike him and find him rude. It’s been a see-saw of an acquaintance that even today, after all this time, I still cannot truly define.



The surreal experience refers to last night. I GENUINELY DID NOT EXPECT TO SEE HIM. I was with my friend when he walked over towards us. From afar he saw me, said hi and I was like “oh hi!”. Really normal. Got closer to me and that's when it all happened.

So you see, these things normally happen in movies: where the guy and the girl lock each other’s gazes and they can’t look away. I don’t remember ever seeing it in real life and I have definitely never experienced it for myself. It was crazy, it was weird, it was surreal…SURREAL is the word!! My brain was not connecting to my mouth, my tongue was locked, I could not think! My mind LITERALLY went blank! And I AM SURE he was in the same state cos he couldn’t say a word to me but STARE. We stared in each other’s eyes for what seemed ages. The whole fantasy stopped only because his friend said “Beau! Do you wanna keep it moving?!” and that’s how we both got back to reality!

It was like we went to a whole new world! It was like there was no one else around us. And I’M NOT EVEN being cheesy cos I genuinely even forgot that my friend was there.

I never saw him again that night even though I really wished in a take two to ‘fix’ what happened the first time(and attempt to have a normal conversation).



That was so weird and I’m not gonna lie: it freaked me out a little bit. I didn’t know things like this could happen in real life. And it’s…quite pleasant. In a way.



I wish for all of you to experience this one day if you haven't. That person could be the one.



Keep on dreaming, it's free…



Xxx Princess Leona xxX