I think when you get to the point of 'googling' something you know it’s a serious business.
Unlike what people think, I am ACTUALLY quite a shy person! I HATE being at the center of attention unless I’m in my element: e.g. singing, dancing or sports competition. I had to learn (and I am still learning) to get over myself and be confident no matter what I am doing. So I understand what it means to be shy and especially feeling insecure. However, I don’t necessarily let that stop me from being myself and get what I want (at least not all the time). And this brings me to my dilemma.
What I googled today was: “how to let a shy guy make a move”! I mean, I know it is a bit desperate and pathetic to say the least but I didn't know WHAT ELSE to do. Prince Beau will drive any woman crazy with his mixed signals and ambiguous intentions. I obviously don’t know if he likes me but I am also not certain of the opposite. (But then, I am also not sure if he likes anyone anyways). So I NEEDED TO DO SOMETHING to find out.
The frustration brought me to 'Wikihow'. Wikihow is such a great website as it deals with ANYTHING but it really makes me laugh on how seriously it deals with the stupidest topics (like how to count the hair on your head!)
Anyways, it was giving me great advice on the aforementioned dilemma that made perfect sense. However, it didn't shine any light on my situation: I have either tried those suggestions already and didn't work or never thought of trying them and I know THEY JUST WON'T WORK.
However, reading the different articles opened my eyes on the reasons behind the actions of this interesting male species. Some of them are quite obvious, like nervousness that hinders shy guys from being themselves. Other ones were quite interesting: sometimes a shy guy might not make a move because he thinks he is out of your league and you will never like someone like him. Or sometimes his shyness doesn’t always translate in nervousness or anxiety but also in rudeness and aloofness. He can appear like he’s not interested in having a conversation with you or even in acknowledging your presence when IN ACTUAL FACT, he REALLY wants to talk to you.
However, reading the different articles opened my eyes on the reasons behind the actions of this interesting male species. Some of them are quite obvious, like nervousness that hinders shy guys from being themselves. Other ones were quite interesting: sometimes a shy guy might not make a move because he thinks he is out of your league and you will never like someone like him. Or sometimes his shyness doesn’t always translate in nervousness or anxiety but also in rudeness and aloofness. He can appear like he’s not interested in having a conversation with you or even in acknowledging your presence when IN ACTUAL FACT, he REALLY wants to talk to you.
I don't know about you but I find that really interesting.
However, I eventually had to realise that there is nothing I can do about the situation. LITERALLY NOTHING. All I can do is wait and see what happens. Focus on working on myself and being myself, all the time and ESPECIALLY around him, as I can unwillingly become quite awkward and just weird!!
Despite the failure in applying any of 'Wikihow's' suggestions, one thing I will take with me is that it is important not to rush things and to go at a slower pace than what you will normally do. He needs to build the trust that will make him more confident around you when you’re together. And that goes the same for you: you need to ensure that he is a keeper and only then, you will be able to trust him. And this, takes TIME.
And that does not only go for shy guys but for every guy.
Patience is a rare and challenging virtue but once you acquire it, you can cherish it forever because you know you will always need it.
Challenge yourself to be extra patient with one thing or one person this week...
However, I eventually had to realise that there is nothing I can do about the situation. LITERALLY NOTHING. All I can do is wait and see what happens. Focus on working on myself and being myself, all the time and ESPECIALLY around him, as I can unwillingly become quite awkward and just weird!!
Despite the failure in applying any of 'Wikihow's' suggestions, one thing I will take with me is that it is important not to rush things and to go at a slower pace than what you will normally do. He needs to build the trust that will make him more confident around you when you’re together. And that goes the same for you: you need to ensure that he is a keeper and only then, you will be able to trust him. And this, takes TIME.
And that does not only go for shy guys but for every guy.
Patience is a rare and challenging virtue but once you acquire it, you can cherish it forever because you know you will always need it.
Challenge yourself to be extra patient with one thing or one person this week...
Yours,
Xxx Princess Leona xxX
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